Four Married Lessons

Today we’ve been married for four years, we been a couple for six and known each other for eight.  I’m definitely not the girl who was so scared on her wedding day – I’ve made some mistakes and done a lot of growing up and I still have a long way to go.  There are definitely life lessons I’ve picked up so far; a little list of reminders for myself and advice for those around me.

1. It’s never too late to grow up and act your age; but the sooner the better.
2. But don’t lose your sense of humor it’s all you’ll have to get you through some days.
3. Marry someone who you’ll still think of as your best friend when the flame burns low.
4.  A good marriage is not found in the dollar section; it’s not meant to be used up, thrown away and easily replaced.  It is something that is worth the investment of your time, sweat and tears and sometimes, like anything worth salvaging, you have to be willing to take it all apart, strip it down to the bones, clean it out and put it back together again.
“Life’s a happy song, when there’s someone by your side to sing along.”
I’m glad to have someone who isn’t ashamed to break into spontaneous musical numbers in the kitchen by my side.

You are a Good Mother

Please make a check next to every item one this list that pertains to you.  At the end of the test we’ll tally the results and give you a definitive answer of what kind of mother you are.

  • I am pregnant.
  • I’ve miscarried.
  • My children are fostered.
  • My children are adopted.
  • I want to be a mother.
  • I help with another persons child.
  • I’m the mother of one.
  • I’m the mother of many.
  • I’m the mother of multiples.
  • My children are one after the other.
  • My children are spaced out.
  • My children are young.
  • My children are older.
  • My children are breastfed.
  • My children are bottle-fed.
  • My children were delivered naturally.
  • I had a c-section.
  • I had no pain meds.
  • I did.
  • I birthed in a hospital.
  • I birthed at home.
  • I baby-carried.
  • I preferred a stroller.
  • I stay at home.
  • I work at home.
  • I work away from home.
  • My children are healthy.
  • My children are not.
  • My children wore cloth.
  • My children wore disposables.
  • I did EC.
  • I only cook from scratch.
  • My children have eaten a Kid’s Meal.
  • My children excel at something.
  • My children are still figuring it out.
  • My children struggle.
  • My children have special needs.
  • My children walked early.
  • My children walked later.
  • My children talked early.
  • My children talked later.
  • My children go to public school.
  • My children go to private school.
  • I can afford to give my children everything.
  • I can’t.
  • My children are always perfect.
  • My children try my patience.
  • Sometimes I need time by myself.
  • I never want to be away from my children.
  • My children watch TV.
  • My children don’t.
  • My children love being outside.
  • My children don’t.
  • My children were planned.
  • My children weren’t.
  • My children have a traditional life.
  • My children don’t.
  • I love my children.

Okay now it’s time to tally up the results:

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If you checked off even one item on this list you are a Good Mother.

You are a Good Mother because there is no such thing as a Perfect Mother.  Every Good Mother has their strengths and weakness; their good days and bad days.  It doesn’t matter if you do things the same as your mother or differently than the next door neighbor because I believe that you’re doing what you believe is best for your children and your family and that is what is important.

So this Mother’s Day celebrate, the way you want to, that you’re a Good Mother and take a moment to give your fellow Good Mother’s a pat on the back, a little encouragement and a lot of support.  We’re all in this messy, exciting and terrifying moment in our lives together and we all deserve to be told that we’re Good Mothers.

And to you, my friend, who is a Good Mother and this is for you.  Please feel free to use it yourself and share it with someone who deserves to be told that they are a Good Mother.

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molly makes do

The Kitchen Basket

Oh the joy of things of your own.  Namely things that the big people use that are just for you.

 

If you haven’t noticed we’re rather big fans of the Montessori ideas of childhood education around here – while I’m no expert and it’s not an all encompassing part of our lives I do enjoy taking the bits and pieces that inspire me to create a more stimulating home environment.

Right now Henry is just entering into the stage of development when Montessori-ans really start pushing “Practical Life” – which in a nutshell is teaching children to develop skills and habits that will serve them in becoming independent children and adults.  “Practical Life” can be anything from pour water into a glass, to picking out your clothes and helping in the kitchen.

Henry has been getting increasingly interested in what’s going on in the kitchen, particularly what I’m doing over the counter-tops.  To help encourage curiosity, but limit run-ins with hot or sharp items (until his understanding of key words is a little more developed) I made him his own “Kitchen Basket”.

 

Thanks to an amazing thrifting score I got everything here in one swoop.

Montessori principle encourages children to use real materials from a young age – to help learn care and other good behaviors.  I went with this idea while picking out his materials.  The basket includes wood, enamelware and various type of real dishware (it has some heft to it and makes quite a bit of noise when dropped).  Honestly I kid of want the salt shakers and the enamel bowls for myself

All and all I think I spent the same on everything (basket included) for about what it would have cost to get this lovely set from NovaNaturals (oh so lovely though).  The run down of the basket is 3 enamel mixing bowls, 2 wooden bowls, 2 china bowls, 2 china plates, 2 china cups, a mix of smaller kitchen utensils and a set of wooden salt and pepper shakers.

 
 

On first use they bowls and things were mainly used like a new set of blocks, but we did have a chance to share a little bit of make believe – getting him to stir the bowl and eat some imaginary food.  However it’s the future fun that we’re sure to have that is what’s most important.

Do you do anything like this?  Big on play kitchens and pretend? //assets.pinterest.com/js/pinit.js