Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going

Goodness me I hadn’t realized I hadn’t yet posted at all this year!  A sudden kiddo illness (strep, WTH right?) in combination with the work week that just would.not.end. will do that to you I suppose.  I’m rather glad I had made no grand “12 Days of Christmas” plans this year because that would have gone right out the window.

That being said I do plan on initiating a fun little book I got for Christmas tomorrow for Epiphany by making the drink “Lamb’s Wool”, which I’m assuming from the recipes is like Super – Cider.  They give the option of using hard cider which is really tempting for after the kiddo’s bedtime.

We’re not doing a Little HolyDays Link Up at the moment, but I couldn’t help give a little shout out to some friends with some good Epiphany ideas and musing – Kathleen @ Becoming Peculiar, and Sarah @ Two Ortizes + More

Other than taking care of my little one this week I’ve been trying to tackle a plan of attack for my new Word of the Year.  One of the biggest things I have to tackle to achieve just about everything on my list is finding a way to get out of the house.  It’s tricky when you work away from home – I always want to optimize my time with Henry and Ben in the evenings on the days I’m away from home and hate to make any plans that take me away on a regular basis on those days.  I usually don’t have mommy-guilt, but suggest I go do something away from my family on a Tuesday, Thursday or Friday during the week and I might break down in tears.

Of course I was forgetting completely that I do have other days of the week that I get to spend with Henry (in particular) and to my surprise I found that I wasn’t racked with guilt with the idea of disappearing for an hour every Monday night because I spend every Monday at home with Henry without fail.  And luckily a local salon  is offering 8 weeks of one-hour Yoga classes on Monday nights.  Get out of the house?  Do something active?  Maybe meet some people? and not have it be a commitment that last forever?  Sign me up!

I’m still on the look out for a book or craft group that I can join up with that I could be part of only once or twice a month – if all else fails I’m thinking I will try to start up a Book Club thru church this fall based on A Well Read Mom’s second series.  Expanding my reading collection?  muse on their religious themes? and no commitment beyond once a month?  again, sign me up!

Other than that, we’ll see where the year takes me – sadly I’ve found myself lamenting the fact that I know quite a few great women who share my interests and are at a similar stage in life with marriage and children… but none of them live anywhere near here.  Frustrating right?  Most folks I know in real life are friends (living elsewhere) with plenty of similar interests, but are very rarely in the same stage with the little ones and settling down and such.  Most folks I know via this little bit of the internet share the rest of the qualities except distance gets in the way of making any face to face contact.  Le Sigh.

Oh well… onwards and upwards right?

p.s. I’m still trying to convince my husband to buy a *winning* lottery ticket because he promised to buy me 10 acres of  this if we do.

6 thoughts on “Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going

  1. Does this ever strike a chord with me! This month I'll be working four full days a week, and you can bet it's hard to get me to spend time away from my family when I haven't seen them all day. Same during the summer months. In between that is school, and that's a whole other beast entirely!

    I've realized my mental health depends on me exercising at least two time each week. If I don't, I start to just feel sad and as though I have no energy, then I eat junk food, which makes me feel worse, and it's just a downward cycle from there. Sadly, the only real time I can fit in exercise is in the morning before my family is awake. I do a bootcamp class twice a week at 5:30am, and while it took some getting used to going to bed much earlier on those nights, it's really been worth. I'm sure you're going to love your yoga class; not only is it good for you, but sometimes it's just nice to be by yourself!

    I feel as though I could've written what you said about finding friends with similar interests! Sadly, Sean and I are young enough that most of our friends are content living the single, partying life. Most of the families at our church (or any activity we seem to do: soccer, swimming, story time at the library) are five to ten years older than us, so we feel out of place there as well. We do have some couple friends our age with kids, but it's hard to find time when we're both free. I'm hoping it gets better as we get older, as Aiden starts at our parish school, and as we both move into our full time careers. In the mean time, *hugs* because I know just how you feel 🙂



  2. We went to school to be theatre people – which is notorious for folks not starting families until late if at all. Most of my friends from school (with a few exceptions, most of them following similar paths) don't quite understand that this family thing we're doing won't be over once H. gets into school… sigh.

    I'm notorious for not taking time for myself health and beauty wise and then I wonder why I feel schlumpy, out of shape and start having too many ugly days. I'm really working on finding the balance so that I'm not schlumpy mom and not high-maintenance mom.

    I often feel the same way – it feels like around here it's either younger folks with a kid or older women with multiple kids. I feel out of place for having my first kid at 27 (a month away from 28). =(


  3. If I didn't know better I would have thought I wrote this post. This is so me! I have decided that my word for the year is happy. I am the schlumpy mom –and that doesn't make me happy. I am going to change that this year. I never get out of the house –and that doesn't make me happy…but I also have major mom guilt the rare occasion when I do go out.

    We have three children while many of our friends are newly weds or just have newborns. It is really hard for many reasons. My friend who had three children similar ages moved away last June so I really don't have anyone that is in the similar life situation as me. How does a SAHM go about making friends? Craiglist ad perhaps?

    I find so much joy in connecting with you online Molly.

    Here's to a happy (mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually) 2013!


  4. Thanks for the shout-out! Yay!

    The yoga sounds fantastic. I could so use something like that, too. I did yoga before I had L and it made me feel so much better about my body.

    Also? Yes to the friends dilemma. I have plenty of friends nearby in the same stage of life, but with few similar interests; I have plenty of friends online with all the same interests but who live miles and miles away. I find I have to be satisfied with connecting to all these different friends in different ways and on different levels. When put all together, I guess I have some pretty great relationships! 🙂


  5. I hope it's not cruel to hear how much other friends feel like they're in the exact same situation – it's just nice to know I'm not the only one =). I love my online relationships – they give such a great balance to my life, but what I wouldn't give to have more of you close by!


  6. ditto jamie – I'm so glad we've stayed in contact! p.s. I've totally put out a call on an Iowan's Group on Ravelry to try and find a crafting group – it's not craigslist, but almost!


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