Many women in my situation hate the Feast of the Annunciation, it’s just another reminder to them that God has not given them a baby. Sometimes we’re even bitter towards Mary for what she got the same way we feel the pangs of jealousy when another friend or family member in a less than ideal situation announces a surprise pregnancy. You gave *her* a baby, perhaps someone, like Mary, who’s not married, or very poor or very young, and not me… again.
It hard sometimes to see the struggle in the blessing and the blessing in the struggle. More so because so many of us feel judged for our small families; the sideways looks that tell us a person is wondering if there’s something wrong with our bodies or our marriages, if we’re being selfish.
The Annunciation is seen as a gift, the gift was Mary’s fiat and it was given to the world.
Today I ask that you give a gift as well.
The next time you see one of us –
- the family in the traditional church with “only” a few children
- the married couple who is celebrating another anniversary and not pregnant
- the family with that only child whose just getting older with no sibling
- the family who might be carrying the hidden pain of medical issues, financial burdens or anything that is keeping their family from being what it isn’t
- and so many more families that just don’t fit the perfect big family mould